When your work speaks for itself, don’t interrupt

Mona Lisa, by Leonardo da Vinci, from C2RMF

Let your achievement speak about yourself rather than boasting your own work. Let your work and achievements have their own glory. It does not mean that advertising is bad. In fact, don’t assume people know what you do. Don’t assume they know how you can help them. You have to advertise your work but not the self. Right time will come and you will be recognized for your work and that is the time to show your humbleness.

You must develop the habit of sharing your work with the world. This habit must be practiced daily. If you’re the best in the world at what you do, but no one knows that you do it, then you are invisible.

Focus less on impressing people with your credentials and more on connecting with people. After that, don’t complicate things and let your work and achievements speak for themselves.

When your work speaks for itself, don’t interrupt.
Henry J. Kaiser
US industrialist (1882 – 1967)

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20 Life Lessons We Learn Too Late

Sometimes we become depressed thinking about the past and mistakes we have committed in life. There are many lessons we learn late in our life. For example, the importance of maintaining work-life balance, the art of listening and giving more value to health rather than wealth. Moreover, we feel like going back in time to rectify our mistakes.

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A Quora thread [1] has shared some lessons we should learn early in life so that we do not regret later on. Here are my top 20 from the thread:

  1. Simple is good.
  2. It’s all about the relationships. There is nothing more important to each person than themselves. Tap into that. Do good for others and the world will be your oyster. For us introverts, we’ve gotta work a bit harder. The above quote from Maya Angelou summarizes why this is so important:
  3. People are far more important than any other thing in your life. No hobby, interest, book, work is going to be as important to you as the people you spend time with as you get older.
  4. Time passes much more quickly than you realize.
  5. If you don’t take care of your body early then it won’t take care of you later. Your world becomes smaller each day as you lose mobility, continence and sight.
  6. Money talks. It says “Goodbye.” If you don’t plan your finances for later in life, you’ll wish you had.
  7. That big house you had to have becomes a bigger and bigger burden, even as the mortgage gets smaller. The cleaning, the maintenance, the stairs — all of it. Don’t let your possessions own you.
  8. Every day you wake up is a victory.
  9. None of the best experiences of your life will happen staring a computer screen, a phone screen or a TV.
  10. Beneath anger is always fear. As the wise Yoda says, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” Whenever we suffer, especially for long periods of time, at first we believe it is because of something outside of us–something we hate. And if we make it past that emotion, we find below that hate is a rumble of anger, and certainly something we have held on to for far too long. But beneath all of that is always fear. A fear of loss. A fear of vulnerability. A fear of letting go. But if you can get to the point of acknowledging the fear, you will see its lighthearted shadow, compassion. And you will be able to move forward.
  11. Your emotions take practice. Who you are emotionally takes practice. You can practice humility, you can practice forgiveness. You can practice self-awareness and humor, just as easily as you can practice anger, resentment, drama, and conflict. Who you are, emotionally, is a reflection of the things you consciously (or unconsciously) practice. You were not “born” upset. You have merely practiced that emotion far more than you have, say, joy.
  12. Achievement will never be as fulfilling as the journey.
  13. The school really were the best days of your life. If you worked hard at school, you are reaping the benefits now.
  14. Choose your friends carefully; you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
  15. Always give your best at everything you do, people are always watching.
  16. Always treat people the way you want to be treated and you’ll receive respect from almost everyone you meet.
  17. Everyone is simultaneously different and the same. Regardless of someone’s race, culture, gender and sexual orientation, everyone is equal.
  18. We don’t care about the things we get easily, Health for instance.
  19. Practice Humility, Practice Forgiveness. like you practiced playing Piano. Your emotions take practice.
  20. And last but not the least, Don’t let your Possessions own you.

Source: https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-lessons-people-most-often-learn-too-late-in-life

 

Work harder on yourself than you do on your Job

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This is a followup on the answer I wrote on Quora. There I tried my best to keep the answer short and crispy, as I hate lengthy essay type of answers, as it is very hard to read on mobile device. (I use Quora mostly on my phone).

“Work harder on yourself than you do on your Job”, wise words from the late Jim Rohn, an entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker.

What does that mean?

Well most people, if they are employed, get up and go to work and spend eight hours or more in the workplace, working hard for someone else. There is nothing wrong with that and that’s what most of us do across the world.

The cycle repeats, day after day, week after week, year after year even. A third of our day is spent at work. A third of our day is spent making someone else’s goals and visions come true. But…

How much time do you spend working on yourself?
How many books did you read last year?
How many times did you exercise last year?

Most people go to work and never think about working on themselves.This is true for our health, as well as our minds.

Rushing out the door, coffee on the way and grabbing whatever for breakfast is not taking care of your body. Sacrificing your heath and well-being for someone else just to pay the bills, that isn’t living a good life.

I’m not telling anyone to not work hard at your job. In fact, I’m saying the opposite; “Work hard at your job and be proud to do that but work harder on yourself.

Make yourself a priority. Taking daily action to improve yourself in every area of your life. Start a plan to improve your health if you need to. Start a plan to read, learn and educate yourself more on whatever subject you desire. Feed your mind with positive information that will motivate and inspire you. If you want the exact opposite of this, continue to read the newspaper and watch the TV.

As you begin to work harder on yourself, your output in your job will increase too so everyone wins here. When you work harder on yourself, every area of your life improves. Health, finances, relationships, family. Make a commitment to begin working on yourself today. It will be the best investment you ever make.

Loneliness can be worse than hunger

This blog is inspired by this post from Paulo Coelhos Blog where he talks about Loneliness being worse than hunger. According to me the most depressing and most relevant part of this blog is: “There are people who spend entire weeks locked up in themselves. They will go from work to their TV and from their TV to work.”

“The more TV you watch, the fewer friendships you are likely to have, the less trusting you become, and the less happy you are likely to be.”
― Charles Montgomery, Happy City: Transforming Our Lives Through Urban Design

Loneliness arises from never being able to share oneself – one’s thoughts, one’s truths, one’s needs – with anyone. We can no longer keep going from party to party, from circle to circle. We can no longer continue to increase the number of our friends.

Mother Teresa was forever compassionate towards the loneliness felt by “wealthy” people who on surface had it all. She was also very concerned about the breakdown of families. Here are a selection of her words about loneliness which say it all:

  • It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start.
  • Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
  • The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.
  • The greatest disease in the West today is not TB or leprosy; it is being unwanted, unloved, and uncared for. We can cure physical diseases with medicine, but the only cure for loneliness, despair, and hopelessness is love. There are many in the world who are dying for a piece of bread but there are many more dying for a little love. The poverty in the West is a different kind of poverty — it is not only a poverty of loneliness but also of spirituality. There’s a hunger for love, as there is a hunger for God. — Mother Teresa, A Simple Path: Mother Teresa

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Researchers have confirmed that loneliness can be a deadly affliction — as lethal as diabetes or smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

Loneliness is also more widespread in big cities.

“Social isolation just may be the greatest environmental hazard of city living — worse than noise, pollution, or even crowding,” Charles Montgomery wrote in his 2013 book Happy City: Transforming Our Lives Through Urban Design.

love what you do, the money will follow

There is an old saying, which is usually true: if you do what you love, the money will come. But let’s be realists too, there is no point chasing a career that no one will pay you for.

I hate this advice, not just because the word “passion”, but also because it’s a terrible life plan.

Reason No. 1: Not everyone has a passion.
Reason No. 2: It’s a total lie that you’re bound to make money if you love what you do, particularly if that thing is in the arts – which, let’s face it, it usually is.

We also find people quoting the opposite like Steve Jobs who said, “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.”

So, which one should we follow: doing what we love or loving what we do?

The answer is relatively easy if we dig a little deeper. First let’s not confuse with hobby/interest with passion for work which makes money. I love browsing internet and chatting in social networking sites but that doesn’t pay me. Finding a financially viable career passion is very rare. We may love something very much as a hobby but making a career, gaining respect for it, turning it into a business opportunity is extremely difficult.

We find doing what we love a myth only if we confuse hobby/interest with passion gained through hard work.

Here’s a plan how we can chase this mystery. Think of all the things you are passionate about or were passionate about during childhood/high school and then answer this question:

“Can I make money out of it?” If the answer is no, it’s simply a hobby you can do it in your spare time.

“Today, however, job seekers are now in the driver’s seat to search for and find a job they love. They are more in control to ramp up their job search to find more opportunities that better align with their degree, personal goals and interests, or family needs.” — Tara Sinclair, chief economist at Indeed Hiring Lab

When you found a job you love or find interesting and financially viable work hard, improve you skills required for that business. Use small achievements to keep motivated. As warren Buffet said, “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life”. Don’t worry if you can’t find it in a single attempt, after all it is the passion of your life.