The Cinderella Principle

Struggle of Life

Life can be a struggle. Things are never as easy as we want and rarely as easy as we expect. To continue life is a big deal of struggle. But there is a great success lies behind this struggle. To reach this place we have to do hard work. Then the success will come.

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This sculpture is made on the theme of master artist Joynul Abedin’s an art work of struggle. It has been well preserved in Sonargoan Musium, Narayanganj, Bangladesh. Source: Wikipedia

The Cinderella Principle

The Cinderella Principle is a fundamental part of life. To put simply, the Cinderella Principle is an example of human psychology.

Everyone thinks life is one upward, smooth trajectory. They think of Cinderella in her big castle and forget that she spent decades scrubbing floors, being beaten, and locked in a cold room. Between “Once upon a time” and “Happily ever after” a lot happens. Not all of it is good. – Joshua Kennon

Source: The Cinderella Principle

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Random Thoughts on Honesty

The person who is honest only for a “price” should be rated as dishonest.

There are no degrees of honesty. There are only absolutes. Either you are honest or you are not.

Honesty does not come for a price; honesty is its own reward.It’s also the most efficient form of human behavior.

Honest persons never have to worry about which lie they have told to whom, and they never have to worry about getting caught. Thus, they are free to focus all their energies on more productive things.

Make it a habit to be honest in all your dealings. If you can’t be truthful in what you say, don’t say anything at all. Remember, small lies start out innocently enough but soon assume lives of their own. A small lie requires a larger one to conceal it, and soon more, even larger lies are required.

Don’t tell that first lie or take a single thing that doesn’t belong to you, and you’ll never have to worry.

Wisdom Wednesdays – Pablo Picasso

Robin Sharma recites the story of Pablo Picasso:

One day a woman spotted Pablo Picasso in the market and pulled out a piece of paper. “Mr. Picasso”, she said excitedly, “I am a big fan. Please could you do a little drawing for me.?” Picasso happily complied and quickly etched out a piece of art for her on the paper provided. He then smiled as he handed it back to her. “That will be a million dollar.” “But Mr. Picasso, “the woman replied flustered, “It only took you thirty seconds to do the little masterpiece.” “My good woman,” Picasso laughed, “It took me thirty year to do that masterpiece in thirty seconds.” — Read more here

“Know what you can excel at — your ‘genius points’. Discover your talent and then work like crazy to polish them. One of the most important of all personal leadership skill is self-awareness. Know what you are really good at. Reflect on those abilities that others admire in you. Think about those capabilities that just come easy to you — and flow effortlessly from you. You might be a fantastic communicator ot have a way with people. You might posses an extraordinary ability to execute and get things done. Perhaps your special talent involves innovation and creativity and seeing what everyone else sees but thinking a different thought. Find your genius points and then develop them. Focus plus daily improvement plus time. Start today and in three to five years people will be writing about you. Calling you a genius. Celebrating your magnificence.” -Robin Sharma

The crux of this story is:

Focus + Daily Improvement + Time = Genius

Understand this formula deeply and your life will never be the same.

A Quiet Place

It would be quite difficult to find another book which better illustrates for children the power of imagination; the power to be alone in their own quite place, a place we all have…our mind.

The author begins this work with a declarative statement:

“Sometimes a person needs a quiet place.”

“A place to rest your ears from
bells ringing and
whistles shrieking and
grown-ups talking and
engines roaring and
horns blaring and
grown-ups talking and
radios playing and
grown-ups….
Well, even grown-ups need a quiet place sometimes.”
(Source: A QUIET PLACE by Douglas Wood (author), Dan Andreasen (illustrator)

In poetic and gently philosophical prose, author Douglas Wood explores what it’s like to find that special place where we all can think our own thoughts and feel our own feelings. Dan Andreasen brings exquisite imagination and thoughtful wonder to words that will inspire readers of all ages to seek out their very own quiet place.

“Quiet is peace. Tranquility. Quiet is turning down the volume knob on life. Silence is pushing the off button. Shutting it down. All of it. – Amir”
― Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runner

 

 

Rest to be restored, not to disengage

Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.

One of the fundamentals to making every day more fun is to understand the importance of rest. Rest is not laziness, it’s a vital part of your life and as with anything it will pay if you learn how to rest effectively.

I suffer with feelings of guilt when I’m not working at breakneck speed, so learning to rest has and be still is an effort (which is ironic of course). Over time the resting process has become easier and by napping, micro resting or even just sitting still you can turbo charge your energy and your mood to get the best from your day.

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Even Olympians, Entrepreneurs and Extreme Sports Athletes understand the power of rest and integrate it into their daily routines. A good night’s sleep, holidays or even finishing work at the right time provides wondrous health benefits.

Remember to make time to rest – it pays just as well as hard work.
Work Hard, Rest Hard
Rest to be restored, not to disengage.

 

The Socratic Triple Filter Test

In ancient Greece, Socrates (the famous philosopher) was visited by an acquaintance of his. Eager to share some juicy gossip, the man asked if Socrates would like to know the story he’d just heard about a friend of theirs. Socrates replied that before the man spoke, he needed to pass the “Triple-Filter test”.

The first filter, he explained, is Truth. “Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to say is true?” The man shook his head. “No, I actually just heard about it, and …”

Socrates cut him off. “You don’t know for certain that it is true, then. Is what you want to say something good or kind?” Again, the man shook his head. “No! Actually, just the opposite. You see …”

Socrates lifted his hand to stop the man speaking. “So you are not certain that what you want to say is true, and it isn’t good or kind. One filter still remains, though, so you may yet still tell me. That is Usefulness or Necessity. Is this information useful or necessary to me?”  A little defeated, the man replied, “No, not really.”

“Well, then,” Socrates said, turning on his heel. “If what you want to say is neither true, nor good or kind, nor useful or necessary, please don’t say anything at all.”

Source: Jennifer Cook O’Toole, The Asperkid’s (Secret) Book of Social Rules (Jessica Kingsley Publications, 2012) page 137

Now consider this

Before you answer a question or voice your opinion, ask yourself: Is it true? Is it good? Is it kind? Is it useful? Is it necessary? If it passes these filters, speak up. If not, either find a tactful way to make it pass or better still, keep it to yourself.

Most people leave it at that and assume that the story is just about the information we spread. What if the real truth behind it, however, is about the information we seek and create. Imagine how different the world would be if we only chose to seek or create information that was true, good, or useful.

Imagine how different the world would be if we only chose to seek or create information that was true, good, or useful.

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Give it a try, and you will be amazed at the difference it makes in how you feel and how you communicate!

Wisdom – The cracked pot

the-cracked-potA water bearer, bore two large pots, each hung on one end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, and while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master’s house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots of water in his master’s house. The poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you. For the past two years, I have been able to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master’s house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.

The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, “As we return to the master’s house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path. That’s because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you’ve watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master’s table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house.”

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We are all unique in our way!

If you are someone who likes working on teams of people just like you, that may be a big mistake. Diverse teams bring different perspectives, skills and talents to the table. The best leaders understand that diversity on their teams is powerful. After all, think about what the world would be like if everyone was exactly the same. Not only would it be uninteresting, but not very creative either.

“We are sun and moon, dear friend; we are sea and land. It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is: each the others opposite and complement.” – Herman Hesse