12 Little Known Laws Of Gratitude

  1. The more you are in a state of gratitude, the more you will attract things to be grateful for.
    • Be grateful for what you have, and you’ll end up having more.
    • Focus on what you don’t have, and you’ll never have enough.
  2. Being happy won’t always make you grateful, but being grateful will always make you happy.
    • It’s nearly impossible to sincerely appreciate a moment and frown about it at the same time.
    • To be happy right now doesn’t mean you don’t desire more, it means you’re grateful for what you have and patient for what’s yet to come.
  3. Gratitude fosters true forgiveness, which is when you can sincerely say, “Thank you for that experience.”
    • It makes no sense to condemn or regret an important life lesson.
    • Gratitude makes sense of yesterday, brings peace to the present, and creates a positive vision for tomorrow.
  4. You never need more than you have at any given moment.
    • It has been said that the highest form of prayer is giving thanks.  Instead of praying ‘for’ things, give thanks for what you already have.
    • When life gives you every reason to be negative, think of one good reason to be positive.  There’s always something to be grateful for.
  5. Gratitude is all-inclusive.
    • Good days give you happiness and bad days give you wisdom.  Both are essential.
    • Because all things have contributed to your advancement, you must include all things in your gratitude.  This is especially true of your relationships.  We meet no ordinary people in our lives; if you give them a chance, everyone has something important to teach you.
  6. What you have to be grateful for in the present changes.
    • Be grateful for all you have now, because you honestly never know what will happen next.  What you have will eventually be what you had.
    • Life changes every single day, and your blessings will gradually change along with it.
  7. A grateful mind never takes things for granted.
    • What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.
    • The circumstance (or person) you take for granted today may turn out to be the only one you need tomorrow.
  8. As you express your gratitude, you must not forget that the highest appreciation is not to simply utter words, but to live by them daily.
    • What matters most is not what you say, but how you live.
    • Don’t just say it, show it.  Don’t just promise it, prove it.
  9. Gratitude includes giving back.
    • In the hustle of everyday life we hardly realize how much more we receive than give, and life cannot be rich without such gratitude.
    • It is so easy to overestimate the importance of our own achievements compared with what we owe to the aid of others.
  10. The highest tribute to the people and circumstances you’ve lost is not grief but gratitude.
    • Just because something didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t the greatest gift imaginable.
    • Be thankful that your paths crossed and that you got the chance to experience something wonderful.
  11. To be truly grateful, you must be truly present.
    • Count the blessings in your life, and start with the breath you’re taking right now.
    • We often forget that the greatest miracle is not to walk on water; the greatest miracle is to walk on this green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment, appreciating it and feeling completely alive.
  12. Letting go of control multiplies the potential for gratitude.
    • Sometimes we put too much weight into trying to control every tiny aspect of our lives that we completely miss the forest for the trees.
    • Learn to let go, relax a bit and ride the path that life takes you sometimes.  Try something new, be fearless, but above all else, do your best and be OK with it.  Clearing yourself of needless expectations lets you truly experience the unexpected.  And the greatest joys in life are often the unexpected surprises and opportunities you never anticipated.

“Life should be lived with a little more GRATITUDE and a little less ATTITUDE.”

Source: 12 Little Known Laws of Gratitude (That Will Change Your Life)

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Only Different Kinds of Good Weather

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A retired weatherman was once questioned by a friend, “What kind of weather is it going to be tomorrow?”

“The kind of weather I am going to love,” was the instant response with a gentle smile on his wrinkled face. “How do you know that it will be the weather you will love?” the friend was curious.

The weatherman went on to explain, my years in weather department has taught me just one thing:

Sunshine is delicious, rain is refreshing, wind braces us up, snow is exhilarating; there is really no such thing as bad weather, only different kinds of good weather.
— John Ruskin, Victorian art critic and big time weather optimist

To make the most of everything that doesn’t go as planned is an attitude thing.

No Strength Without Struggle

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In a biology lab, the teacher explained how butterfly struggles to break the cocoon as students curiously observed this metamorphosis. Before leaving the class, she urged students to just observe and not help the butterfly.

After a while, one of the students took pity on the struggling butterfly and broke the cocoon to help. But shortly afterwards, the butterfly died.

When the teacher returned, she saw what had happened. “Your help killed the butterfly. Struggle helps butterfly in developing and strengthening its wings,” she said.

“Our struggles are the source of our strength.”

Have you ever considered how your life struggles can actually help you?

I remember reading a great piece of wisdom: “part of identifying your life purpose is to identify your struggles and set backs.” From there, you can then feel actually prepared to ask yourself how to utilize this information in a way to help others.

The Art of Seeing Possibilities

Benjamin Zander’s book “The Art of Possibility” starts with this story:

A shoe factory sends two marketing scouts to a region of Africa to study the prospects for expanding business. One sends back a telegram saying,
SITUATION HOPELESS. STOP. NO ONE WEARS SHOES.
The other writes back triumphantly,
GLORIOUS BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY. STOP. THEY HAVE NO SHOES.
To the marketing expert who sees no shoes, all the evidence points to hopelessness. To his colleague, the same condition points to abundance and possibility. Each scout comes to te scene with his own perspective; each returns telling a different tale.
How often does fear win over our hopes and dreams? We constantly keep thinking about our frustrations but not about the potential that we still have in us. Don’t let your failures so far interfere with what is still possible for you to do.
The book will help you learn how to focus on what’s possible given a difficult situation, rather than just concentrating on the current problem. This is something that is very valuable when trying to work with others, and it will help you improve your process.
It also emphasizes the importance and value of failure. The Zanders explain how it’s often best to react to mistakes by saying “How fascinating!” and treating them as opportunities for improvement.
The Art of Possibility is deceptively easy to read. Filled with stories and examples from the worlds of both music and therapy that illustrate twelve helpful practices, you can quickly get through the text. However, these are simple to understand but difficult to master, so you may want to move through the book more slowly.

Attitude can turn problems into blessings

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There is very little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big positive difference is weather it is positive or negative.

Long time ago I read the story of two shoe salesman, who were send to an island to sell shoes. The first sales man was shocked to realize that no one wore shoes. Immediately he sent a telegraph to his home office saying, “will return home tomorrow, no one wears shoes.”

The second sales man was thrilled by the same realization. Immediately we wired his home office saying, “please send me 10,000 pairs, everyone here needs them.”

In Awake, My Heart, J Sidlow Baxter wrote, “What is the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity? Our attitude toward it. Every opportunity has a difficulty and every difficulty has an opportunity.” [Source]

Similarly in the story of David and Goliath, when Goliath came to fight all of the soldiers thought, “He is so big, we can never kill him.” But when David looked at the same giant he said, “”He is so big, I can not miss him.”

Many times we see the challenges as the sunset of life rather than the sunrise of bright new opportunity.

Some quotes on attitude

When things aren’t working the way you want them to, or you feel you’re surrounded by problems, it can be tempting to look outward and try to change the things that you feel are causing issues. Chances are the issues you’re facing aren’t so cut and dry. The solution to the problem might just be your attitude.

I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening, I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself. -Walter Anderson

The real things haven’t changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong.

You always have a choice of how you are going to respond to what the world offers you. Do not let something dictate the way you react to things. You need to look within yourself and realize that you have the power to make things happen. We are a sum of all of our life’s experiences, so use these past lessons to help better your present situation.

 

 

 

Life acts, you react

Much of our lives is spent in reaction to others and to events around us. The problem is that these reactions might not always be the best course of action, and as a result, they can make others unhappy, make things worse for us, make the situation worse.

We often react without thinking. It’s a gut reaction, often based on fear and insecurities, and it’s not the most rational or appropriate way to act. Responding, on the other hand, is taking the situation in, and deciding the best course of action based on values such as reason, compassion, cooperation, etc.

Let’s see whether or not you agree with the following statement.

“You are responsible for all of your experiences of life.”

There is a trick in this statement, it does not say “in life” but “of life.” You are not responsible for everything that happens to you, but you are responsible for how you react to what does happen to you. The formula is that, “Life acts. You react.” Your reaction is under your control.

In any life situation you are always responsible for at least one thing. You are always responsible for the attitude towards the situation in which you find yourself. Your attitude is your reaction to what life hands you. You can have either a more positive or a more negative attitude. Your attitude is under your control and can be changed. With the right attitude you can be a resilient person.

‘Do you have the patience to wait, till your mud settles and the water is clear?
~Lao Tzu